1. Be yourself.
Just be yourself and you don’t have to act to get a place their hearts. Show that you are sincere in every single thing you do and you really mean what you say in every conversation. Originality always attracts. No harm to share with them your drawbacks or weaknesses. Show your talents and abilities rather than tell.
2. Approach their kids.
Kids are always easy to be tackled compared to the adults. Try to play with or tell stories to the kids. Buy them gifts and let their parents realize that you are a friendly and jovial person.
3. Accept the fact that they are your beloved partner’s family.
It means that your partner grew up in the family and loves the family more than anything. Keep that in mind and they become much easier to bear and everything will flow freely.
4. Make an effort to get to know them.
After formal introductions, put some effort to know them. Make a special effort with the older people at home, then the siblings of your partner, their partners and their kids, if there are any. We tened to dislike or ignore people only when we don’t really know who they are.
5. Respect the elders.
Show respect when you talk, eat or even when you are just sitting idle in front of them. Playing with smartphones should be banned completely. Show attention to the conversation or the food you are eating. Attentiveness would reflect your well being to them.
6. Stay in touch.
If you are not staying under the same roof with your in-laws, find time to text or call them once in a while. They would be definitely touched and it would help a lot in the bonding of your new relationship. Make them feel that you acknowledge them.
7. Support your spouse.
This is their family, and always will be. If you put them in the middle of fights a lot, you’ll only breed more tension. Just try not to sweat the small stuff, and support your spouse’s position in relation to his next of kin.
8. Suppress your ego.
Most relations spoil due to this ever damaging ego factor. Stay humble and try to avoid any sort of conflict. The rule is simple and you just need to fill in empty spaces with love and abstain ego from getting in at any point of time.